“The date with Nicole was great! Her smile was beautiful and she had such a positive attitude. I will see her again, it was a great fit.”-Josh, 42 “Good! He’s very nice. Really funny too! He’s social, positive and kind. … Continue reading
Recently on “Good Morning America”, they featured a dating segment that sent two single female volunteers out into the New York City bar scene to see what works and what doesn’t in today’s dating world. Tonya Reiman, body language expert … Continue reading
“It was a great match! Great job matching us together, I liked everything about him and we exchanged phone numbers. I hope to hear from him…we had so much in common! I really like a guy with a good sense … Continue reading
If the chemistry and compatibility is right, most men and women start thinking about when they want see each other again. However, are they merely thinking about a second date, or are they thinking about a relationship? Hold on to your hats, guys: 45% reflected on a first date and then asked yourselves, “Is she relationship material?” On the other hand, almost 51% of women are more likely to consider whether they want a second date or not, while 39% asked themselves if a guy was relationship material.
Even though it seems a lot can happen within the first hour of a date that makes a single decide whether or not they want to see someone again, the best thing to do is just slow it down. Dating, and much like the relationships that can follow, are marathons; not sprints. With all the complex intricacies that can occur on in a first date, it’s tough to expect perfection. If we let our guards down a bit and relax, have fun, be comfortable in our own skin and make our dates comfortable in theirs, you’ll never know what kind of surprises you’ll discover.
The comparison may seem a little cold, but let’s face it: first dates are very much like interviews. Exude confidence, be comfortable in your own skin, be interested and kind to your first date, and chances are you’ll get a second one. However, there is a window in which most people decide on whether or not they’ll want to see someone again. According to our respondents, 44% of women and 46% of men decide within the first twenty minutes whether or not a second date is in the cards. The good news is that since a previous survey in 2004, both men and women are gradually deciding later and later in the date as to whether or not they want to see each other again. For example, in 2004, almost 80% of guys decided whether or not to take a woman out again within the first 15 minutes!
We came across this article and infographic about the differences between a geek and a nerd. Check out the article here: Are you a geek or a nerd? [Infographic] | memeburn. Which one would you rather date? According to their study, geeks can fall for and marry non-geeks but nerds marry other nerds. What do you think?
“The date with Amy went well! She’s attractive, great energy and outgoing. She has a great sense of humor, we laughed together all night. We’re planning a 2nd date!” – Brian, 46
“It was really great! We had a lot of fun, he’s very good looking, he’s tall and he’s so friendly. Very much the gentleman! We had a lot in common too which made for a great conversation between us. We spent 3 hours together and already made plans for our 2nd date. I’m so excited right now, I feel like a teenager again!” – Sandra, 46
“We had a lot in common it was unreal! She’s very kind, very nice and really attractive. We have some mutual friends in common; I’m surprised we haven’t run into each other at certain events. I’m looking forward to our 2nd date this weekend.” -Denny, 50
So what is chemistry? Most people aren’t sure exactly what it is, but they know it when they feel it. If you have good chemistry with someone, such as on a first date, you’ll want to pursue more time with him or her. If there is bad chemistry, then it’s unlikely you’ll want to see each other again. Whatever the case, most singles – almost 66% of our respondents – said that chemistry is the single most important part of a first date; more so than even initial compatibility. While a couple may not be perfect on paper, a first date may reveal a lot more than what is in a profile. In fact, almost 44% of singles said that if they “felt comfortable being themselves” it meant the first date was a success. And listen up, ladies: 49% of men said that being able to feel comfortable as themselves on a first date was a sure sign of a good one.
On occasion, there will be times where a first date will reveal no chemistry whatsoever. While this isn’t a bad thing, it might mean that one person wasn’t comfortable opening up, or perhaps there was mutual defensiveness on both sides. Again, while you can’t necessarily force chemistry, you can take some of the tips we have covered on our blog to help coax it in the right direction. And remember, everyone has butterflies and jitters on their first date, so be open to trying a 2nd date…you never know!
Facebook, Twitter and other social media outlets has changed the rules of dating and relationships. The team at Lab42 conducted a study on how people treat relationships with social media and conducted this survey on 500 social network users ages 18+. Check out our results below. What do you think?
“She was great! It was a very good date, thank you. She’s cute, down to earth, a lot in common. I invited her to see a Wild game, I really liked her!”-Dave, 36
“Brian and I had a really great time! I really liked him; we spent over 3 hours together. We talked a lot, he’s very attractive and honest. I found him interesting, we also shared dessert. I hope he calls! I’m nervous..I really liked him! I would love to see him again.”
–Amy, 39
